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I look for a different way to see the situation rather than be angry about it. I see anger as a failure of my expectations. Studying politics is like exploring a mine field. I am never upset for the reason I think. Usually I feel upset because “whatever" reminds me of something I did not want to think about. Strange isn’t it? Being reminded of an instance of anger from antiquity that enrages me in the moment due to some similarity.This is why I work on my memories to choose to see them in another way…a happy way, rather than be emotionally dragged from memory to memory not seeing the present clearly.
12 years ago. Rating: 8 | |
I think about things from all angles... go for walks, work in my studio or talk to myself in my pantry! I don't like getting angry... I let the feelings fade and then have a little say.
I did get stinking angry once for four solid days. The person I was angry with understood why. It didn't change on single thing and so ever since then I can't be bothered to feel that lousy.
12 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
I really don't like to be angry, having spent years and years so engaged. It turns out most of my anger is actually hurt feelings.
Recently, I discovered that I was crying my head off on a daily basis and being irritable because of something that a "friend" had said/done. I'd not "confronted" the friend for fear of losing the friendship. But a "friend" wouldn't have treated me like I'd been treated, so what did I have to lose by coming out and saying what I felt. Lose a friend who was hurting me?
I wrote an e-mail and studied it up one side, down the other, inside out and upside down before sending it. There was no anger anywhere in it, which was what I'd hoped. There's no way I'd have been able to verbally express my feelings. I feel better and time will tell with the "friend", but I am being almost completely true to myself, for a change.
SO TO ANSWER THE QUESTION: While the initial reaction may be anger, I tend to evaluate what's happened and generally find myself more hurt than P.O'd. Rarely will I confront someone with my feelings, so I am generally miserable and irritable from keeping my feeling bottled up inside. On occasion, I will write to the person who has me unraveled.
12 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
Ed Shank: Your support and encouragement are awesome. Thank You.
(I can have an "Up your ass MF attitude"? Good for me!):D
Ironic someone posted this question. I had my Maniac face on yesterday, my wife pissed me off like I can't ever remember in recent years. I gave her a "Sonic" cleaning, I thought for sure her ears would start to bleed. I got into my car, dropped the top, got on the interstate and hauled ass for an hour, almost ended up in Ohio. All is cool today. We will discuss and rectify this issue after the holidays.
12 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
Not, to upset you but TU you !