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Is this with or without a chasity belt?

I let my daughters start dating at 17 years old. My grand daughter is trying to date at 15 and is about to drive my daughter CRAZY. I told my daughter 17 NO less, don't let her talk her into dating before 17. Am I being too old fashion ?

Old fashioned is good.Kids these days seem to want to start at the top.As far as dating is concerned I think you have to judge the kids individually.Some are ready some aren't.

Our oldest went on her first date at about 16.Her little sister wasn't even interested until she was about 22.

BTW,I assume you mean dating as in home by 11pm & not sleep over dating.

I think 17 is being a little strict. Supervised dating with an early curfew at 15 would be my choice. Supervised = double dating with an older sibling or possibly being dropped off (and picked up) at the movies or high school dance by the parents.

Ducky

Things are moving faster than they used to, I know, but 15 seems pretty young.

16 , actually never really had a problem my daughter was senior prom queen out of 400 plus  girls but that was because she had as many girl "friends" as "boy friends" ...still a virgin of to college......with 30 credits under her belt I don"t think I have to worry.....we have talked and talked..... I PROMISE any parent out there if they talk and listen......all will be GOOOOOOOOD!!!!!

Ducky

Happen to know some parents who "talked and talked"...one daughter pregnant at 17..one daughter pregnant at 16...sadly the rest of the story is not good! I only hope that you're right in what you believe.

My daughter is 12 and she has a "boyfriend" LOL... She can see him at Burger King... With me sitting right there.... When she is 16 her "boyfirnd can come to the house for dinner, or to play cards with the family. IF there is a dance I will pick her up and drop her off. No riding in cars with boys until she is at least 17.

Difficult one - such an enormous responsibility having children about 17yrs I would say not before - I did not have children - looked after more kids than people have had hot dinners. Times have changed so much - parental responsibily taken away after 16 yrs - teachers not allowed to discipline. With the right parenting I'm sure they will be OK but environment too adds to this. My sister was a virgin bride and her husband too as he had to have a circumcision when he was 21years old after marrying her. Am I allowed to say that - Oh my beginning to wonder.   

If i had mt way my daughters would have been 30 before dating, but they both started dating around 16, you have to trust them to be careful, only a naive father still thinks his daughter is a virgin by the time they reach 18. i cannot understand the different thinking with some adults regarding sex-- a guy is sowing his oats and a girl is a slut == double standard.

Spaceghost thank you so much for your response. You brought tears to my eyes because i work so hard for kids everyday.  Spaceghost I am happy that you are keeping an eye on your granddaughter.  Kids really need us to look out for them and watch them.  They do not know what to do regarding most of their life circumstances until they get a little older and have some experience under their belt.   So  once again for dating it depend on many factors.  The neighborhood.  has the parent talked to kid about birth control, (both boys and girls).  What is going in with their friend and neighborhood.  Can you take them away from neighborhood to something else if you feel it is not good for them.  Once again, I always believe in getting a good neighborhood counselor.  Good luck and God Bless you and yours!

If I had my way about  I would say their  20's................... And now that they are 29 and 21.........they agree  also,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,No girls for grandchildren yet........we will see how that goes later............By that time No one will be  listening to me................

If your Grandaughter is a sensible and mature girl for her age,i don't see the harm of her having her first boyfriend at 15.It is only natural and all part of puberty and "growing up.It is getting her ready for the big world out there".Of course rules and strict guidelines must be enforced from the parents.

What age was your first love Spaceghost ?

Not Until The Menopause!!!!

no I think you have to listen to them and TRUST them as if you dont they wll rebel and find another way to date behind your back

Spaceghost i love this question.  I will try my best because i work with children and have advised kids and parents for years.  but i am not all the way certain, but this is what is think.  I believe it is so crutial that we parents, guardian, grandparents etc. LISTEN TO OUR CHILDREN!  Also look at the environment.  What is going on.  Are kids dating at 13.  Do i want to take my kids to church on the nites that kids are going out on dates.  So many factors.  My advice get your kids in music, sports or something that will keep them occupied and then they don't have time to date until, maybe 17 or 18.  Otherwise kids at 15 and 16 are having kids.