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Only you can make the choice which is a very very difficult choice in life I know.  If you love her enough to stay with her and your child then so be it.  But know this, you can never ever love another person enough to make them change, people can change but it has to come from within them and a choice that they make.  Just do not think that you can ever change her nor anyone else, the only person we can ever hope to change in life is ourselves by our choice.  Best of luck and May God Bless.

pythonlover

Very good answer Darci13.

You received 28 answers to your original question,what more can we say?If you want to stick with her,then do it.It is your call.

Probably really want to be absolutely sure she has feelings for this person, and then ask her where she wants things to go with you two. Why is she still with you, if she has feelings for this other person? I ask this, in light of the fact she knows she has a kid with you, and she still felt compelled to cheat on you. Wish you luck, but it sounds as though she didn't value what you two had when she cheated. Sad situation to be in, in light of the fact that you two have a child together. But, some individuals are what they are, and act the way they do, based upon things that occurred earlier in their lives.

When I was young, I had several friend's girlfriends, make the approach on me, saying how much more they wanted to be with me. (For some people, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence!) I just told them straight up..."you'd find me no different than your boyfriend after awhile.) One of them even had a little son, who use to stand on the tips on my steel toe boots and tell me he wished I was his father. I wanted a family back then...but, I couldn't cross that line. There was a line there that I didn't feel would be right to cross...so, I didn't.  I use to make my living walking steel beams...wasn't a lot I was afraid of.

I'm not a lot today, I'll admit that. But, I know who I am, and I know what I'm about...and I'm still glad I never crossed those lines. Some people are not like that...it's very unfortunate, as it causes lots of hurt...most especially to the young. Do what you can, and when you can't take it anymore, walk away a proud man being there for those that are yours and those that you feel are like yours...life will come around for you, it's a path with many turns and twists that might leave you surprised, in the value of doing what's right. When your heart is good, people know it, and life is not so unkind to kind hearts!

What do you want times , dates and photo's of her affair with this person so you can leave her . If you have a 2yr old with her it's in the past I'm sure you think of old flames from time to time . Look after the both of them treat them well and get on with life and her feelings will fade for this person insert yourself into her heart be romantic.

Ask yourself :Right this minute what would it take for you to cross the line and sleep with another woman??? What keeps you from this ??? Now think of when she had her affair and know none of those barriers existed for her then . For those moments you did not matter not one bit. She walked right through those barriers that keep you honest.  People fail to realise the pain these kinds of actions cause. If you hit someone with a hammer or cut them with a knife where the wound was visible surely we would demand punishment for those acts. The damages to the heart cant be seen so we think they don't exist  write it off as no big deal. Not so betrayal causes hideous wounds and the callus indifference with which our significant others do this to us is in my book unforgivable. I will never put my hand into a wood chipper  ever not even a consideration . Nor would I cheat ,not even a consideration. Anyone who has so little respect for me is not worth my time. I invite you to ignore my advice ,to laugh at this old fool and continue on your merry way. In parting consider this unreliable women are the same as unreliable cars ,you will be left in the darkest hour ,far from home.in the cold with a very long walk and most likely all your stuff on the line. Hind sight at that point will tell you it would have been better to never have taken that sorry car for a spin.   But do as you wish ,if ignoring me is the best course of action then please do .  All arguments are bad enough but when they are in your head and there is no where to go that sucks double . Good luck I am broken so my advise may not be the best.