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    HOW DO YOU KEEP YOUR NINE YEAR OLD FROM BEING SO MOUTHY?

    +1  Views: 554 Answers: 7 Posted: 13 years ago

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    Slap her across  the face a time or two. Some states still allow parents to be parents. 

    Vinny

    Not California though, that's why our 'young adults' have no respect for anyone... Not to mention, pout (protest) until they get their way as authoritative leaders are unable to correct them in fear of going to jail.. Thank you dr. spock..
    Colleen

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    Dr Spock was a quack. He destroyed proper parenting.
    Poppy3

    violence breeds violence. Children who are abused it is said and has been known that they go on to abuse.
    Colleen

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    A mere slap that does not knock her to the ground is not violence. I know violence, I lived it. Violence and a slap does not equate. I have never abused a person in my life yet I grew up with a father who beat the living crap out of his kids. Do not fall for the simplistic rhetoric that does not answer for everyone. Bleeding hearts do this world no favors.

    I was mocking a teacher in first grade and she walked over to me and grabbed my cheeks between her thumb and pointer finger; she squeezed them for about 30 seconds and so hard that it cut the inside of my cheeks and caused them to bleed. My mouth was sore several days after. I guess I was taught a lesson because I never mocked that fat, ugly, biatch again. LOL

    Tommyh

    This day & age she would probably be on death row now for doing that.LOL
    bluesman1951

    Dont know quite what to say ,but you did make me laugh .I should tell you about Catholic school, Nuns and rulers ,and the joys of third grade .We all had better manners back in those days .When putting your foot squarely in somebody's back side was COUNSELLING .LOL
    country bumpkin

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    Oh My! Yikes!

    Let them sleep on the porch over night . I don't envy your position be a tough call . Violence is not the answer . All I can say is I would be in very big trouble . Boy am I so glad I have no small kids,I see the little monsters on the city bus all the time with their foul mouths . Pray for guidance and patience then when no one is looking rattle their cage but good .

    Colleen

    Moderator
    Do you consider a simple slap on the face violence? I'm not saying knock the kid to the ground with the slap. Sometimes a simple slap holds enough shock value to let them know they've crossed the line of appropriate behavior. There's nothing wrong with that when mere words have not stopped them from bad behavior. It shocks them back into reality that the make believe world they live in (and all kids exist in make believe worlds of their own creation) that causes them to act out will not protect them from reality.
    bluesman1951

    I dont know what I think about a simple slap . The law says assault happens when one person lays hands on another. The law is positive about what they think. They also have hand cuffs to enforce their point.My father beat the hell out of all of his kids every day . We all hated him and when he died this year he was old and alone with altzimers.His dad was a sob and beat him as well. All the kids are messed up in some way beating fixed nothing . Sad family history.
    Colleen

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    As you know, my father beat the heck out of his kids too. A slap is not a beating.

    Iknow it is unlawful, but a little corporal punisment will go a long way.

    Poppy3

    Depends what sort of corporal punishment - I have said in my initial answer I did not know the circumstances - I do not take all the questions literally - there is quite more to them which we do not know. - I have had had more contact with children(some of whom badly abused and attended child abuse lectures) than most people have had hot dinners and did not work or go to lectures with Dr. Spock. I would never hit a child across the face(maybe the bottom or legs) in fact I have never hit anyone across the face or anywhere. When I was at school we had very good discipline and the teachers were not reprimanded for doing this.I was also disciplined by my parents in an acceptable manner. I do not agree with the theory that parents should not discipline their children or teachers for that matter. The Government here want the children to behave but prevent teachers or parents from disciplining the children. If a child is only 16 years it is against the law to ground them - just go out and do as you like so the government says!!! That is why we had a few weeks ago here in Hackney - right on our doorsteps - chaos riots and looting - where are the parents? The Government were saying - !!! I will say no more about this subject as you have no idea where I am coming from.

    Kill them with kindness.


     

    Like Zorro says do that. Your child may be needing attention or want attention. Try asking he/she to explain why they are asking or saying in as much detail as they can sit with them and listen, perhaps the child needs, wants to be heard or even perhaps left out?? Having to explain this may help and reduce this. There is probably a reason or perhaps not it may be you who thinks this and the child is completely unaware.

    Colleen

    Moderator
    The child is playing her mother and getting away with it and this is the best you can do? Just keep feeding the child's nastiness by coddling and "understanding" rather than teaching her to just shut up and stop her mouthiness? This is why we have so many troubled kids today. They are not getting proper guidance, just hand and "understanding". Then they become adults and the whole world gets to put up with their crap and mouthiness.
    Poppy3

    So easy to say - I would like to be more aware of the circumstances re parents and child. To listen and understand I do not believe in anyway is coddling a child and asking her to explain is teaching her to inadvertantly shut up - she will realize she needs to do this. I am not aware of the situation - it maybe the parents who need teaching.I am fully aware that children need discipline and guidance(which is sorely lacking these days) but there are degrees of discipline that is all I am saying - do not believe I fall for any old simplistic rhetoric as you are saying and my heart may be in failure but it is certainly not bleeding.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    I've seen were you come from dopey in many discussions here. Sorry but you are the type of person my sister listened to for years and her son is ruined because of it. Thanks for the crappy advice because your voice is the same as the voices she listened to. She was told to hand hold and coddle and understand his actions. He did not respond to the talking, the understanding the taking away of privileges. When he came here to live with me for a summer, he responded to the slap across the face I gave him when he mouthed off at me and called me a b!tch. He never did it again. A 9 year old is incapable of analyzing her feelings and emotions so she can't just "talk about them" that's why a parent is a parent. A parent draws the line to where the mouthiness is not allowed. They can listen when she is capable of being able to express herself without the nasty drama. She is not going to just figure this out on her own and know when she needs to stop being mouthy. It's the parents job to stop her mouth. To shut it when it is being disrespectful and mouthy.

    My mom used the bar of soap to wash out my dirty mouth and it stayed clean (at least around her) till this very day. Soap is a very memorable way of ridding a bad mouth kid of a dirty mouth, just make sure they know not to swallow. Lol. Good luck, if you don't fix the problem early it will only get worse later. Spare the rod and spoil the child, you will only be allowing your child to develop into a rude mouth brat if you do nothing.



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