Bob/PKB
DO you know people like that? Just recently, I've gotten, "Can't we just be friends and go on" from someone who knows I was hurt by him. My son and I got into an argument a week ago and his "apology" was "Let's just put that aside". My ex-husband never could say he was sorry about anything. Is it just me being a doormat or does anyone else experience this phenomena? I feel like outright telling them, "When you say you're sorry, we'll be fine." HELP.
10 Answers
zorro
Best answer!
Colleen
Maybe they're not sorry. Maybe they see it as just a difference of opinions. When an argument erupts over a difference of opinions, the best thing is to agree to disagree but not force another into an apology that they feel they do not owe. That would just be shifting hurt feelings from one to the other and allowing the cycle of hurt to continue. You can only be hurt if you allow yourself to be hurt. Accept all as an opinion and let it wash away as an opinion you do not agree with.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
easytexas
At times I believe it is all in the upbring of the person. Having to say your sorry is not easy expecially if you don't take ownership for your actions.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
bluesman1951
I dont understand . Once you have taken the trash to the curb why would you consider bringing back into the house . Done is done ! Lock the door and move on with your life .People dont change they just work on perfecting their game . Its what they do the scammers and cheaters .If you thought of yourself as a fine auto like a Mercedes then you would be less likely to put it in the hands of fools to treat badly . Nor would you park it in bad places .Respect yourself. Point is life is just to short to be filling your days with regrets . The should have , could have ,kind of regrets. When age catches up and we start rembering those memories should be rich and full . I think you should make a date with yourself and just go out ,maybe dinner maybe a movie ,who knows . Just make it fun for you . Then if you feel like sharing tell us . Bill
| 13 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
I do go to movies, restaurants, concerts, shopping, bowling, to the golf course, church, even been to a couple of bar/grill places to hear a band I won't again, since we are just friends and have moved on (to a tall, slender redhead).
I do need to take better care of myself; better go lock the door.
I dont have a good answer ,people just suck sometimes. Just shut the door and dont let them in . In regards to yourself raise your asking price and demand more quality and settle for nothing less than the best . You cant fix people that have damaged themselves through their own actions . Sometimes no help is the best help. My life is a disaster of sorts so I am the last one that should be taking on this question. Good Luck to you . I hope life brings you some joy . Bill
| 13 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
amfortas
Good question and good examples. I am sure that you have been wrong about somethings at some time and yet knew that there was some justification for at least part of what you did or said. Here lies the most common problem. For many people their 'sorry' can be all inclusive and be taken as an admission that everything they said or did was wrong, when in fact just a small part was . Indeed, it may only be an inadvertent 'hurt' that was caused but a 'sorry' will be taken as an all encompassing 'fault'. Most people try to avoid that. It is annoying but very human.
Then there is the 'let's move on' / 'put it behind us' syndrome which is also very common these days. It simply avoids confronting the real issues and/or denies the other person an opportunity to clear the air. That is damned annoying too. Some matters are just too important to be left unexamined.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
If there's a problem with that, we can discuss it...obviously I'm open for that or the apology wouldn't have come out in any way, shape, or form in the first place.
Second paragraph....yeah! Now what!
Thank you for giving me such a thoughtful response, amfortas.
Headless Man
Sorry, but I have many times. My wife has a way to get kids to not just say their sorry but ask the other to ask if they will forgive them then the one who was wronged will say yes or no.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
Your wife has a talent. What happens when the offended refuses to accept an apology? There ARE times when one is just too angry or hurt to say "sure", at least for awhile.
LOL didn't think so . But who knows. Time for bed its 2:17 am here . Take alook at www.kob.com and see whats going on here . Nite Bill
| 13 years ago. Rating: 2 | |
The rest of what you said I am in agreement with from the get-go. Thanks Colleen...