9 Answers

What a good question.  My answer would be NO, yet I am very concerned about my child.   More work and effort need to be done for your son for sure.

Why marry? He should just make sure his name is on the birth certificate and he pays child support and 1/2 of education and health insurance. Why make the kid suffer in a home where mommy and daddy do not love each other?

My advice is no. As Colleen said above, the child will be the one that ends up suffering the most with two parents under the same roof  whom don't love each other. ( You did say all this - right Colleen?)

Colleen

Yes I said all that C.B.

@ sonny, I am considering the child.
Why would he grow up without a mom or a dad that is not his own? Is the mom considering putting the baby up for adoption? The dad could go to court for sole custody if that is the case.

country bumpkin

The child was my only consideration when I answered your question. If two parents are living under the same roof and they are not in love with each other then this child will eventually know. Your child will grow up with no sense or knowledge of how a family is supposed to live and love and treat one another. Children are like sponges. They soak up everything their parents say and do. If your child watches you guys everyday and yall never hug or kiss or tell each other how much you love one another, or you constantly argue then He/she will carry all of this into adulthood. He will think it is normal for parents to argue and show no affection and in return he/she will more than likely be in the same kind of relationship when he/she grows up. Do you want this unhealthy cycle to be passed down and continued by your own flesh and blood? I know it is difficult to to figure out custody issues but at least the two of you (parents) can move ahead and fall in love with other people and let your child see what it is really like to have parents who are in love with their spouse.

I didn't.....

If I did, my wife would KILL ME!

country bumpkin

LOL- Too funny!

 CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE. WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO LEARN?
You do not marry someone you don't love for the sake of your child. 
Has a paternity test been done to confirm that you are the father???
You have a human right to a life filled with love and joy; whether or not you experience it remains to be seen.
You are using 'mercy" as an excuse to NOT man up.  Stop being a "martyr" and get your own place.  You can continue to have a relationship with this woman (as the mother of your son), and your child. Perhaps you will even become the custodial parent????

I firmly believe the worst thing you can do for a child is to stay in a loveless relationship.  The child(ren) grow up thinking that this is normal and what a relationship is supposed to be.  DO you really want that for your child's future? If not, don't make it his present.

No I think that Love should be the only reson that folk get married! Otherwise lots of folk suffer and the child is at the top of that list!!! I am the first one to say get married because of my beliefs but I cansay with experiance that that is not always the best answer. In the Bible god told Abraham to let his maiden go into the desert and I think that is where some of the generations come from like the Irianians and so forth . So I think that tells us the best thing to do is not to make babies out of wedlock.

you need a dna test before you sign anything. who say you the dad, her? after what i understand to be a one night stand.  wake up my brother and take care of business