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Ideally it is to forgive and forget. But it is difficult in practice. Revenge is a bad choice of action whcih should be avoided if at all possible.
13 years ago. Rating: 17 | |
Don't get mad,Get even! LOL. I don't remember ever actively seeking revenge but the opportunity for revenge has presented itself a couple of times. In one case about 30 years down the track.
Depending on how bad the injustice that was done to me was I probably would never look for revenge. But I would remember it.Just to be sure that person never got the opportunity to do it again,either to me or to someone else.
Some things you can forgive,some things you can't. When someone has lied & schemed against you for their own gain it's hard to forgive.
Carmaxable is right.Forgive if you can.Never forget.
13 years ago. Rating: 14 | |
It's just not worth worrying over the little stuff.
I posted a Question about 9/11 this morning.
That is one event I will never forgive because of the trauma it caused me & my family.
Some things are unforgivable
Never forget or forgive ever . Vengence need not be in blood but there needs to be some with the pecker woods that populate the planet these days .I am all for creative vengence and justice on a personel level . Justice system is ineffective and useless .There should be a permit for do it yourself old school justice.
13 years ago. Rating: 14 | |
Now, I believe in forgiveness, but I'm no fool. The person that wrong you, might do a repeat performance.I will always be looking for it. If it was out of character, or out of not knowing any better, sure. I'll forget. That's life, you learn as you go.
Revenge..... I can't tell you. One day this might show up in court and hang me!
I don't believe in harming anyone. If someone harms my family, rape, stalking,hit and run-left for dead....I will give the legal system their change to right the wrong.
13 years ago. Rating: 13 | |
I don't want to watch my back.
I did got a laugh from your comment.
Forgive but remember so it never happens again. Revenge is for the Universe...what goes around really does come around and you don't need bad Karma. Do something nice for someone tomorrow...pay it forward and change the course.
13 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
It is easier to forgive most things but the forgetting is hard. But I heard a preacher say if you forgive, and then the old feeling comes up again, don't worry about it. You have forgiven==forgetting is hard and you try to get past it.
Getting revenge is never a good thing but like one of the others said, watch your back.
13 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
Forgiveness is probably best if you can. I had a friend who worked for me for 10years and I found out he had been stealing from me. He still lives near me but I just ignore him and his wife, I can't forgive him and I will never forget. I did want revenge at first but that feeling has almost gone now, I would never help him if he needed help though, so I have not forgiven him just can't.
12 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
Forgive is the best forgetting I do not know about if you forgot completely would that not make that person able to do you that way again? Dunno, but forgiving is easier said than done, but revenge is not the route it usually backfires and on you like the old saying revenge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies, it only does you harm not them.
12 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
Being willing to forgive comes first, because the hurt may be too great. Once you are willing to forgive, comes acceptance. And that includes accepting your Self in the situation, especially when you are a victim. This is sometimes next to impossible. But it's a process. It may take years. But forgiving is always, always the way to personal peace, and that's what we all want, right? Not revenge.
12 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
Sometimes the person you forgive couldn't care less, so the forgiveness is for your own peace of mind, soul, and body. It is a generous gesture on your part; "I forgive you for being a total MF'g SOB" is how I'm picturing it for the latest person who thinks it's OK to screw me over (easier than relating details).
I forgive alot of people who don't care how much I'm hurt or angered. I stay P.O. at myself for allowing the situation to arise again. Like I commented to fish girl," The wolf comes in disguises other than a sheep."
Revenge plays out in my mind, but those people are not worth the time or effort.
12 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
I just have to shake my head...? Again? Not this time.