tony
I miss my mom who died 3yrs ago from Cancer,We were not a family that verbalized there feeling nor did we say I love you to each other.My wife tells her Mom that all the time. I regret never learning that with my Mom. And wished she was here because I've learned that its O.K. to love,Cry, and Miss the ones you love. Don't take your family members for granet,tell them NOW how you feel. tony
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Ann
eggplant
ed shank
My mother and step-father both are in the latter stages of Alzheimers. They don't recognize me at all and became fearful of me when ever I would visit, although we always had a close relationship. I stopped visiting but get weekly reports from my brother. Their not physically dead but to me they died last year. I'm not sure which is more painful, actual death or this.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
Gosh Ed I think that has to be even more painful as right now there is no closure and it still hurts very deeply and badly and I truly know how hopeless and helpless you feel and wishing with all your heart and soul there was something you could do.....i am truly sorry.......hugs from me and whisker kisses from my kitties especially my main man Oliver who is 17...... love and blessings and comfort to you.....
Darci
us laugh and cry. She would talk about the past, but could not remember the present. My Mother was the best and I miss her very much. I know she is with God
now and I will see her again.
itsmee
my mom had a massive stroke. at one point the doctor asked if i could let her go. i said, "no. no. i want to keep her alive."
it was an unfortunate decision on my part. she lived on for 18 years. she couldn't walk, talk, feed herself, enjoy a tv show ... nothing. terrible for her and me. it would have been much better for her and me if i'd allowed the doctor to take off the machine that kept her alive.
my husband and i have a durable power of attorney for health care. it's a good thing. it gives us the right to let the other go if an illness should render us hopeless to have any quality of life.
i know they know.
they know i know.
now you know
that we know
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| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
leeroy
Wow, brother that's a touching story, thanks for the great advice.
My mom was diagnosed with cancer about 3 years ago, they gave her 3 months to live and shes still kicking, but has a tumor left in her brain. She doesn't want to talk to me, because of a disagreement between my previous step dad, and myself. I have been wanting to try to talk to her lately, but don't think she want to hear from me. She has my phone number and tried to talk with her before and she declined. Honestly, I don't know what I did to offend her, but the cancer, I'm afraid the cancer is effecting her mind.
I understand your pain and I hope that you will see her in the afterlife, where there are no tears, or sadness. I am sure I and my mom are going to heaven, so for now I can only look forward to seeing her there as well. But I will take your advice and keep trying to make amends, thank you for sharing your experience. I hope it will help more people to mend their broken relationships.
May you do well in your future endeavors, and have peace in your life, Sincerely, Leeroy
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
leeroy - maybe it does have something to do with the tumor, as you said. That type of thing can often affect a person's behavior. Do you think that sending her a letter (perhaps accompanied by some pretty flowers)would help?
day coming up.But do not be offended when she does not want to take your calls, her cancer, the tumor on
her brain and all the medication are surely affecting
her actions.Just visit her on Mothersday with a big
bouqet of flowers, if she is close by. If not, send her flowers and a card and tell her you love and miss
her. Do not give up. God bless. Ann
My sister hasn't talked to me either so I don't know if the letter would make it past her, but non the less I'll send one. I have no idea what my sisters problem is, except for the fact that she thought I was taking my brothers side in a argument.
So thanks to all of your advice and support, I will at least try sending her a Mothers day card or letter. Thanks everybody...
Flip
I too was from a family that didn't verbalize love, but people show their love in different ways. If you loved your mom, I'm sure she knew it, but after someone dies it is normal to wonder if we could have done something more positive.
So yes, go ahead and cry and love those around you and they will love you back.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
Darci13
I am so very sorry for your loss. I truly do understand that. My Mom had a major stroke in 2006 and was completely invalid and could not speak coherently afterwards. I was here main caregiver. She passed away in Nov of '09 and I miss her terribly it hurts badly and I know how you feel. I know that is not enough nor does it take away your pain, but I am truly sorry. May God bless and comfort you always.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
Ms Sinclair
schubee
monkey11
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
Like your touching story, my mother was taken from us three years ago. She is greatly missed. We've learned that she was the magnet and center piece for the family. However, do bear in mind that for Christians, we have the confidence that we will again be with our loved ones - not for a generations, but forever. On top of that, we will have the joy of being in the presence of our Creator and savior. How can that be topped?