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Oh, "suspicious" is hardly the word for it.  The scorned baby-momma needs to be meeting with an attorney (there are free services everywhere) to establish paternity and get the child support going, applying for whatever public assistance is available, and packing her (likely) meager bags and getting the he** out of the house before the new owners move in.  

This is like flying in an airplane with 3 non-functioning engines, no instrument panel, and a huge fuel leak, Mr. Magoo being the pilot. 

I would say the man is a coward.He should have the guts to be truthful

hes not a man - plain and simple! I sympathize with your situation but he is a piece of crap and does not deserve to be with you or your son. Look to your God and your community for help that is out there. Where are you located? I could look online for help in your area. I don't need your address - just the area for your own security......... I will pray for your situation. Don't dwell on this unfortunate person - look for solutions right now....

Serendipity when you toss this looser out why dont you try a dating site for yourself. Its a great way to meet and talk and narrow down those in your age group and area. compatibility with likes and dislikes then you could arrange to have a coffee with anyone you think is suitable. Try ninemsn dating site or Plenty of Fish or Oasis. there are many of them and its better than meeting someone from the pub full of piss and bad manners.

Your question is "WHAT WOULD YOU CALL THAT"? =@^!$@*
I would be charged if I typed the words

a person actions speaks much oabout their character and real intent

he is pure evil

Well as for me I would end it and put his butt out on the curb end of issue. He is not worth it and you are better off alone than with someone like that. What benefits or payoff are you getting out of such a relationship. I would not put up with it for even 1 day much less a lifetime and I would kick him to the curb and go on with my life as there is more to life than living with scumbags and liars.

Serendipity, the man you discribe is no man at all. You know the answers to your questions and I know this must hurt, and for that I am very sorry. You get better and take this loser for everything you can. In time your faith and strength will get you though this, but do not wait for him to continue taking from you. Beat him to the punch. There are better days ahead of you and once your chemo is over, you will feel much better and can start new. God Bless.

What do you want the man to do? Write 'idiot' on your forehead?

I would call it being an irresponsible reprobate or gutless wonder if you prefer. He's probably been cheating on you the whole time.

my husband has dozens of girlfriends whom he says i love u daily... u got a reason 2 be suspicious coz he is cheating on u... why in the world wud we suspect them if we didnt find out what they were up to ;) sorry what u goin thru... just stay calm... i tell u a fact... if u show as if u dont care ... wud be more effective then investigating more about it and he wud luv 2 make u jealous or upset...

you should grab all the money in the banks 401ks, any asset not tied down, see how fast you get added, if thats what you want, i'd take the money and run.

You already knew the answer, The next step is yours.... checkmate!

put him in trash, where he belongs ;)

I HAVE A FEW WORDS BUT I JUST WANT TO SEE IF THEY COINCIDE WITH MINE

i am sorry for what is going on with you he is not a good person. He should be there for you and stop thinking so selffesh if you feel that he is cheating on you that is what your heart feels then thtis what it is. let him go set yourself from him you could do better by yourself and he will pay the concequences. if he get cought out there with aids

Please do not feel offended I feel Im on your side, but I would call this a chance to free your self, to become what you have not be able to.... move forward do not look back, you would see how your health will improve...!!!

After reading your story, to me it sounds like thiss man is a guttless coward, instead of facing whatever problems head on, his decided to make things even worse for you and himself.

Id say, kick him out, your better then him, you have just completed chemo so you have more important things to think about then the waste of space whos meant to be your partner.

I really hope your be ok, and this jerk gets what he deserves one way or another, and you my dear are obviously too good for him and never deserved you in the first place.

Life goes on and follow your gut, don't dwell on what you think - ask him straight up and when he lies to your face, when he is at work, take everything you can and move to the other side of the universe... make sure you get the bank acct first !!!!

That sounds just plain selfish, cowardis and he should confront you with the truth but their are always two side to a story so i couldn't say how horrible that is but their is one thing for certain he was cheating and leaving his children cant be helped if it is a break up. He should still be their for his children and if he isn't i wouldn't call that a man but it is his loss. keep your chin up, be strong and hopefully things will workout and i hope those children are ok so concentrate on them forget about him if it means the attension taken away from them. good luck

I hesitate to answer your question directly, however, in principle I do believe without a doubt, that this is considered to be cheating on at least an emotional level. I'm no genious by any means, but it seems as though you have difficulty forming a proper sentence which may or may not reflect your level of education and or intelligence. I think there are a million reasons why people cheat and if you can't even make your point in writing, what is occurring each time you are under stress during an argument or discussion of your differences. If it's that important to you it would seem that you would take the time to at least form complete and logical sentences. A lack of ability to communicate or make your point understood is essentially poor communication. I have experienced this as well so I'm no expert. Pleas don't take this as mean spirited.

Let me guess, Banksizit, you're a man, right? Just because you can't believe what someone tells you a man has done, doesn't mean it is not true. I find it hard to believe myself that in this day and age of computers, FB, etc., that you have never heard a somewhat similar story on TV, in a magazine, or just in social talk amongst friends. That's why alot of people don't tell anyone about what has happened to them or what is really going on in their life. They are afraid they won't be believed. I guess you, too have the right to your opinion. Personally, I can't believe that you can't believe what Serendipity claims is true!!!

I can just imagine the gut wrenching feeling you must have had to discover the FB issues. So,...I do say I'm sorry for what you are going thru. Next, it is time to shed any guilt feelings, any negative emotions. It is time to heal. It is time to move forward, that which you can not do as long as you dwell in the past. Do not let someone like that drag you down into the mire with them. Stand tall for you and your son. Ask for help. Ask God to give you the strength to start a new. I know it is easier said that done, but you must be a strong woman or you would not have made it this far. !Via con dios! good luck, my friend to you and your son!