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I think the only reason an issue like that exists is because of one person's insecurities. That's their insecurity and something they need to work on rather than to try and control someone they claim to love. This works for heterosexual jealously as well as homosexual jealousy.

As for this part, "views it no diffeent than a hetrosexual male with a girlfriend wanting or actaully hanging out with females consistantly. We all know what that will produce in a mate. "

If the point is in your later comment, then I say, men need to learn to keep it in their pants and respect the woman (or man if it's from the gay aspect) they are with.

It all comes down to respect for yourself and the one you love along with security in knowing your partner can and will do the right thing by you. If you can not trust your partner, then you have the wrong one.

all jelously is toxic.....if you treat all people as equal [but  as individual ] therewill be no jelousness

I believe that there is Jealousy and Trust issues with the friend who does not want his boy friend to hang out with other gay males.  I guess I wasn't born with jealousy...and I have always trusted those that I was dating.  Only once did someone "cheat" on me...I was concerned but not angry.   

I have many male friends, both at work and socially, as does my husband females, neither of us have a problem as neither of us is insecure, in saying that I always welcome my husband to join conversations or come with us for drinks etc, as he does with me, the only problem I could for see is if the partner were to be excluded from the social circle this man has with his other gay friends

Dr. Taylor, it would bother me if my partner were hanging out with people he might become interested in beyond platonic friendship.  As lambshank said, being included in those friendships makes those relationships much easier to accept.  I make the same connection as you did in your explanation.  Perhaps people "should" have more faith and confidence in themselves, their partners, and their relationships, but I have found that people are unpredictable....one never knows.  It is important for the social butterfly to understand his partner's concerns, whether or not he agrees.  Failure to empathize would be a big red flag to me.  

All relationships are based on trust.  Jealousy is more about one's own insecurities than anything else.  One should be open to accepting a partners friends, whether gay or straight, without jealousy or conditions placed upon the partner or his friends.  But first one must reach that level of trust in a relationship where fear of infidelity is not an issue.   Likewise, one must reach that level of personal confidence where another's shortcomings do not affect one's own self-esteem.