I know that is a weird question, but I think it's valid. How many of us are so openminded that we would consciously allow ourselves to love someone who might be destructive, abusive, demoralizing, heartbreaking, and inappropriate. SOMETIMES we DO find ourselves loving someone completely "WRONG". I've done it myself. BUT, when I think about the man I want to be in love WITH, I do have some criteria. How about you?
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When dating its fine to put conditions on who you will date, people don't fall in love at first site, they just think they are and sometimes it turns into real love.
But if I was single I would not date anyone that was not a christian, if God wants you to be married He will find you a mate.
13 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
Dollybird: No Christian is perfect. No one said they were.
I love my wife unconditionally;
I love my parents unconditionally;
I love my children and grandchildren unconditionally.
13 years ago. Rating: 22 | |
I love my husband unconditionally.
I love my daughter unconditionally.
I love my three little grand daughters unconditionally.
My love is unconditional, close-up or far-away. If I am treated disrespectfully I am inclined to be elsewhere. But I love unconditionally even if I have to be at a distance. If I am gone enough, I am sincerely missed and I talk about respecting each other. Life and love is a 2-way street. When you say “no”, you should be respected for your choice. “No” is a power word that calls for respect. Practice saying “NO” , you are in charge of your own life.
13 years ago. Rating: 21 | |
Having criteria means you are not in love. When you are in love, you are blind. The world would be just as beautiful as colorful roses in your eyes, and the ears would be filled with birds singing love songs.
13 years ago. Rating: 16 | |
Play it by the rules Wedding Vows if you are lucky and find the right person (as the saying a marriage made in heaven ) it is a two way split be honest love be open no lies then you have a happy life and wife ,like me and my Josie.Fifty years not a cross or hurtful thing said that my friends is what it is all about.
13 years ago. Rating: 14 | |
truth,respect...communication does wonders.....
13 years ago. Rating: 14 | |
How can you put "condtions" on love "I`ll love you if" nah don`t ring true.
13 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
I don`t think diving into a relationship is a good idea because like diving into a river you do not know what is under the surface.
Softly softly catchee monkey, but we all have certain guidelines we use unknowingly as regards a relationship.
I mean a relationship not a bed buddy quickie.
Don`t think I am a prude because I am not. I have had more one night stands than a stand up commedian.
A relationship involves mutual understanding, respect and caring, it entails allowing the other half of the equation to have some "me" time
trustworthy, honest, productive, active, a reader, someone who likes to dance, tour, go to plays, loves Ballet, museums, educated, caring,witty, have humor, empathy for others and kindness.Accept me for who I am, and not try to change me.
I am not open minded when it come to the following.
I will not put up with a liar, thief, abuse of any kind., or any type of narcissistic behavior. I will not allow any man to rule over me. Destroy my dreams. This is someone you run away from, not run to.
I am independent, strong willed and free.
My grandma use to tell me" God gave you a brain, use it". Why would I allow someone to think for me?
after saying all of that, I am a bit to aggressive.Hehehehe
I have seen to much abuse, and it makes me mental!
13 years ago. Rating: 11 | |
Boy you make a big pair of shoes for some poor bloke to fill. What can he expect in return?
Today it seems rare. God have Mercy!
I put Randy's answer in Best because I think it went to the core of "my issue".
Your list, and the comments you shared with Peoplelover are perfect, too. Why can't there be two best answers!!!
Bob/pkb I have kept in touch, though only occasionally now as I have remarried, but I still love to hear the voice of the person thats still in my heart and the person that made me laugh (and cry) I often wonder if he had accepted the help that I tried to get him how things may be different now, dropping him at the rehab centre,( I might add he had no idea where I was taking him) was the hardest thing Ive ever done, he will always have a special place in my heart.
13 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
Love the person unconditionally. This doesn't mean love until he has cheated, is old, sickly, unemployed, poor, handicapped, and impotent. The reason why the divorce rate in the this country is so high is because we believe in love until some bad sh*t happens. Then we go to court to fight like hell for the money to get even with the b*stard, the very person you promised to cherish and love in the first place. What a joke.
Good question though, Phyllis.
13 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
I believe you can love with all your soul and still have criteria, I loved, and probably still do my 2nd husband, we were together for many happy years, and many unhappy ones,I walked away, not because I didn't love him, I couldn't watch him destroy himself with alcohol and I had some respect for myself. Its been a long and difficult road, there is not one day I don't wonder about him (I know he's now o.k, I put him in rehab) I loved him enough to know his only chance was without me.
13 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
Do you think you might want to contact him some day?
I think the truth and being yourself.I f you pretend to be someone that your not then its almost like lying in a relationship and that wouldnt work out.Just go with what the person wants and you could please them.But of course depends what they want, you dont have to go along with everything.Example if he wants a night out in the cinema then dont argue, thats what he wants so please the man.Its not hard.But these days people are hard to please as well, so there is always that to content with, which is why i think alot of people like to be single.Hope this is comforting my lovely.I like your questions there really nice.Emmaxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
12 years ago. Rating: 2 | |
Placing conditions on love would mean you treat love as you would treat business...
12 years ago. Rating: 0 | |