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4 Answers
Headless Man
A child with only one parent, only has half the chance for a good healthy life.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
Happy it all turned out for you jenn, although I disagree with "no dad" every body has a dad but yoursobviously wasnt with you. Your comment of "a dick for a step dad" is most unfortunate because I am a step dad and have been for over 30 years and my step children and my own children love me to death, for which I am grateful. I feel botn male and female influence is best however I do agree if one or the other cant connect the child is better off with only one parent, but that parent has to be doubly dedicated. Fortunately yours was so good for you.
Jenn...I can sympathize...had a lousy stepfather too, however they are not all like that for sure...many wonderful men take on the responsibility of caring for and raising children who are not biologically theirs.
Amy Smith
I think men make great parents, whether they are alone or with a wife! As for your specific wording (men as single mom), I wonder if you may be referring to a couple of things, all of which are important: first, tasks that a mother would usually do, and second the importance of a female figure in a child's life. As the sole parent, you can take care of both of these issues. You can do all the things that are normally assigned to a woman, with the exceptions of giving birth and breast feeding. Assuming you have ended up a single parent by choice or by circumstance, it does not matter whether or not you have actually given birth to the child, as long as you have unconditional love and joy in the child. You do not need to breast feed because bottles are a perfectly acceptable way of feeding an infant. You can do all the parenting tasks that a woman can. The child needs the influence of both good men and good women in his or her life. So, if you have no female spouse, maybe you have a good female friend that can serve as a constant figure in the child's life.
I don't know that there is any reason to pin blame on anyone. The fact that a man is a single parent can come about by many reasons. The important thing is to focus on the well being of the child, and to do the best you can do for that child. The child did not ask to be a single parent child, and the child will not regret that he or she has only one parent, as long as you do not make it an issue. So, parent on! Take joy in the little life that is yours to nurture. I wish you luck and happiness.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
Luna
Any child who receives the love and commitment from some responsive, responsible adult - no matter what gender - will have the foundation for a healthy and happy development. In a world where stability and resources are strained, any man or woman who is willing to make that commitment to a child is doing the work of the angels. Of course, that being said, it is always better for a child to be loved by as many people as possible, and I suspect that the loving attention of two parents could be an advantage.
On the other hand, I can think of a number of folks who grew up in two parent homes who are all messed up, and I can think of people I know who grew up in the worst of circumstances and who turn out to be extraordinary people.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
mom
Being a single parent I have to mention clearly, that if the child is being raised in a violent, angry atmosphere with both parents involved,which is the worst evil here? I have seen single fathers that are exceptional parents and I have seen the complete opposite but that goes for both sexes.Love is necessary in a child's life but so is a safe loving environment.Having both parents together in a functional relationship is of coarse the best but in this day and age divorce is very prevalent.There is no way to judge who is a better parent and no point either. I have to take my hat off to any single parent.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 0 | |
I am awesome and had 1 mom no dad and a dick for a step father. Single parents can be everything a child needs. If they are not hung up on pleasing themselves and resign themselves to being a parent bfore anything else.