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    I am so sorry to hear about your lossl God be with you! The truth is, that nobody will care as much about your mother as you do.  Just remember that they all have mothers, too, so if they haven't already been in your shoes, they will be someday.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

unfortunately people dont care. they dont know what its like to lose mom. i know when you`ve lost her you`ve lost everything. i lost mine when i was a child. i feel for you. i know what your going through and how hard it is. you will make it.  and dont worry about other people and if they ca.re or not

i feel so desperately sad for you.i wish you were here so i could make you coffee and you could talk to me about her.my love,thoughts and condolences to you xx

I experienced the same from my friends because they didn,t get to know my Mom before she passed. You are fortunate to have loved your mom so much and grief takes time and feeling waves of sadness and loss.is very difficult. I sure your Mom would love to have you remember her with positive thoughts and doesn't want you to suffer. I glad you shared your observation with everyone.

and perhaps you will find comfort and peace in other persons or activities. Hang in there. Love heals.

I can understand your pain and I am so sorry that your mom left and you are still so young. My mom died too and whenever I have a proplem, I talk out loud to her. Many times I can feel something   brushing my  shoulder and out of the corner of my eye I see a dark shadow, but when I look, it is gone. I know she is still around watching over me. I know your Mom is still there to watch over you too. If you need and want to talk, you can come to this site anytime and we will be glad to see you through. We all care very much about you.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. 

You can't do anything. When my friend lost his 21 year old son who was murdered. My grief was so intense that I was at a loss for the right words to say, I didn't say anything for fear that I would either say the wrong words and cause more pain for my friends. It wasn't that I was insensitive, quite the opposite. I had almost no contact with them for a while. I wanted the family to have time to grieve. This may be what your experiencing. Not knowing the right words, or the right time to say those heart felt words. Give them the benefit of the doubt. I feel your grief as I lost my father two weeks ago.

Yvonne57

Ed, I didn't know you lost your Father. I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you. And, if I don't mention it again, please know, it's not because I'm thoughtless, I will think of him whenever I see your name.

Sorry for your breavement.  I had similar experience years ago.  I know how you feel but can't find the appropriate words to say to you.  What I can do is to quote the Holy Bible to comfort you.  John 14:18 of the New Testament of the Holy Bible says, "I will not leave you as orphans."  God will take care of you in all situations and give you solace.  Life on earth is temporary.  One day we will meet our loved ones in heaven.  Take good care of yourself.  People on this site care for you. 

This would be the most difficult and sad time for you,try and take comfort in the special memories of your mom,i'm sure people care,but they just don't know what to say.Try and surround yourself with other family members and give each other support whilst going through the grieving process,this would be a very painful time and i sincerly wish you strength.God Bless

to tic toc,  I wish you were here, b/c I would ask you what are  your favorite memories of your mom. And what are some of the things you did with her. That would be good for you to talk about her. And , if I knew  you and her, I would tell you that she was a great lady and that I miss her. :-(

I was taken aback too, when my dad died in '85, and people acted like it never happened.....or like they didn't know him. Nobody said anything.  :-(     So, I kinda expected that when my husband died.  After that, every time something reminded me of him, I mentioned it to my firneds, and nobody said anything. It makes you feel so isolated. So, when I'm talking to someone who has lost a loved one......I say something nice about the deceased person, and encourage his/ her famiy member to talk about him /her .After my mom died,  None of my mom's frineds said anything like '' i miss your mother so much '' , or '' Your mother was really a good cook. ''  No, nobody said anything like that. It would have helped.   You know who really makes meaningful comments----- is children and mildly retarded people . The things they said were personal and insightfull as to how I was feeling and really helped.