lolapaluza
I was helping a girls who was getting a divorce, and she was being very needy , she needed rides, food, was sleeping at my place...I was trying to be her best friend because she was far from her family (they were in another country) and I was even sharing my time and taking care of her, like giving attention, listening to her, being a good friend.So she was insisting if there was something she could do for me.And saying anything, please tell me, and i said could you take a suitcase wih some gift
I was helping a girls who was getting a divorce, and she was being very needy , she needed rides, food, was sleeping at my place...I was trying to be her best friend because she was far from her family (they were in another country) and I was even sharing my time and taking care of her, like giving attention, listening to her, being a good friend.So she was insisting if there was something she could do for me.And saying anything, please tell me, and i said could you take a suitcase wih some gifts to my family when you come back to our country( cz we are from the same country) and she said yes!So I kept being her friend and one day I asked her about the arrangements to have her to take the suitcase for me and she said,well what are you going to send to them? I said clothes, presents you know nothing that you can't carry and she left and sent me a message I decided I I will not be taking it, I think it is better and well she suddenly stopped talking to me, left without saying a word and just disappeared. I wouldn't care if she couldn't take it in the beginning that was not the reason i was helping her, but why she offered something ans said yes meaning no?Why she left without saying thank you?Why she bloked me on her facebook?
Thanks for the help Colleen! was trying to edit my question and finish it but not sure where to go to do it...
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PEOPLELOVER
Best answer!
Lolapaluza in my time on this little speck in the universe I have learned there are "users" and there are "used" there are "takers" and there are "givers", you apparently fit the second catergory.
Life is to short to ponder why peope do what.
You obviousy fitted a purpose for this person and when the need was no longer there you were no longer needed. Sad but true, that is the way some,not all, of us mere mortals behave toward one another.
Take comfort in the fact you did what you could to help another person, the fact that that person chose to take advantage of the situation is really of no consequence in the grand scheme of things.
You stood up to be counted so be proud of that and treat this as another colour on the canvass of life.
lolapaluza
Life is to short to ponder why peope do what.
You obviousy fitted a purpose for this person and when the need was no longer there you were no longer needed. Sad but true, that is the way some,not all, of us mere mortals behave toward one another.
Take comfort in the fact you did what you could to help another person, the fact that that person chose to take advantage of the situation is really of no consequence in the grand scheme of things.
You stood up to be counted so be proud of that and treat this as another colour on the canvass of life.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
ah!!! you're just right , and i guess you came to be able to help me too :), thanks for the insightfull and precious message !! you are right i will never forget these words!!That's why i say words of encoragement are like precious diamonds!! I feel so much better Thank you :)
pythonlover
Colleen
varon
........... And the question was ?
| 13 years ago. Rating: 3 | |
I was helping a girls who was getting a divorce, and she was being very needy , she needed rides, food, was sleeping at my place...I was trying to be her best friend because she was far from her family (they were in another country) and I was even sharing my time and taking care of her, like giving attention, listening to her, being a good friend.So she was insisting if there was something she could do for me.And saying anything, please tell me, and i said could you take a suitcase wih some gifts to my family when you come back to our country( cz we are from the same country) and she said yes!So I kept being her friend and one day I asked her about the arrangements to have her to take the suitcase for me and she said,well what are you going to send to them? I said clothes, presents you know nothing that you can't carry and she left and sent me a message I decided I I will not be taking it, I think it is better and well she suddenly stopped talking to me, left without saying a word and just disappeared. I wouldn't care if she couldn't take it in the beginning that was not the reason i was helping her, but why she offered something ans said yes meaning no?Why she left without saying thank you?Why she bloked me on her facebook
Grit Savage
mycatsmom
I don't understand what your question is ? ? ? ? ?
| 13 years ago. Rating: 2 | |
I was helping a girls who was getting a divorce, and she was being very needy , she needed rides, food, was sleeping at my place...I was trying to be her best friend because she was far from her family (they were in another country) and I was even sharing my time and taking care of her, like giving attention, listening to her, being a good friend.So she was insisting if there was something she could do for me.And saying anything, please tell me, and i said could you take a suitcase wih some gifts to my family when you come back to our country( cz we are from the same country) and she said yes!So I kept being her friend and one day I asked her about the arrangements to have her to take the suitcase for me and she said,well what are you going to send to them? I said clothes, presents you know nothing that you can't carry and she left and sent me a message I decided I I will not be taking it, I think it is better and well she suddenly stopped talking to me, left without saying a word and just disappeared. I wouldn't care if she couldn't take it in the beginning that was not the reason i was helping her, but why she offered something ans said yes meaning no?Why she left without saying thank you?Why she bloked me on her facebook?
Chiangmai
Well you have got me tossed with this one, no idea what it is about except there is no way I would take a suitcase through customs for some one .
lolapaluza
| 13 years ago. Rating: 2 | |
I Know and I totally understand someone not wanting to do it, I wasn't going to send anything that I am not suppose to, you know , the suitcase was going to be open and if she wanted to check everything it would be just fine,and we are from the same religion too,were going to the same church,not bad people.. I was just sending presents to my family but that's fine... It was just an idea that occurred me when she asked if she could do anything for me, I will send the stuff by mail anyways. The part that makes me feel weird and used and I don't know, really sad, is her weird reaction of just stopping talking to me and leaving without saying a word, and blocking me, is like overreacting makes me feel uncomfortable and stupid and i just want to cry for having given my time and efforts
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I was helping a girls who was getting a divorce, and she was being very needy , she needed rides, food, was sleeping at my place...I was trying to be her best friend because she was far from her family (they were in another country) and I was even sharing my time and taking care of her, like giving attention, listening to her, being a good friend.So she was insisting if there was something she could do for me.And saying anything, please tell me, and i said could you take a suitcase wih some gifts to my family when you come back to our country( cz we are from the same country) and she said yes!So I kept being her friend and one day I asked her about the arrangements to have her to take the suitcase for me and she said,well what are you going to send to them? I said clothes, presents you know nothing that you can't carry and she left and sent me a message I decided I I will not be taking it, I think it is better and well she suddenly stopped talking to me, left without saying a word and just disappeared. I wouldn't care if she couldn't take it in the beginning that was not the reason i was helping her, but why she offered something ans said yes meaning no?Why she left without saying thank you?Why she bloked me on her facebook?