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He will treat you like a Goddess until he "has you" again. Then he will become the monster you knew before. It's extremely rare that an abuser changes. It takes long years of counseling and medication to control their moods. Has your ex done this? If no, then he is just playing the manipulation game to get you back into his world where he can abuse you again. Don't fall for his ploys. There are better men than him out there in the world. Go find one without anger or control issues. 

You can fall in love all you want but stripes don't change on a zebra. Move on from a bad situation.......

1 out of every 10 men will change.  Move on. 

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I have been there. Move on and dont look back. An abuser will always be an abuser.

Keep yourself safe, be realistic, pick up your dignity and keep walking, whats in the past should remain there, and believe me by re visiting this situation it will all be back to the way it was,don't look back

GET A LIFE .YOU don't  look "Crazy . But are you ?

I don't believe an abusive person will ever change regardless of what he may tell you.  Women that stand by these abusive B/F or husbands have a serious mental disorder-- There's too much information on this to go into it here but the guy can't help himself, he is a sick puppy too. You need to get a grip and forget him as a bad dream but your kind never listens tofacts, they always say: "he has changed' or in your case, 'he's changed'.  believe me, once he is convinced he has you where he wants you will go through the abuse again--I can only hope that when you do, you would think back at this post and realize that you were warned.  Whatever good he has going for him has you trapped, whatever it is you can find it elsewhere.  You don't need to live in fear and walk on eggshells in a relationship and certainly you should not ask this question.. Move on, don't look back because when you  make that eye contact, it'll start all over again.

good luck, make the right decision.

You kinda look like maria schriver but your are prettier.. :)

Kelly, please read everything that has been written!  Especially what Colleen wrote!

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Almost total agreement.  What do you think, Kelly?

That is one of the most common mistakes victims of abuse make, they believe their abuser has changed...and then it starts all over! Move on and find someone who will treat you right.

Yep..you can be crazy and take him back...but next time he may well kill you !...I hope you don`t have kids on the scene...I don`t believe they EVER change!!:-(...but then i never hung around after the first punch to find out!!! :-(

Allot of victims, specially those who are abused in there childhood, where damaged for life. How can one love such a person? Forgive ok to clear your heart, but love?

I'm almost positive you could fall in love again with someone who is abusive. But why would you want to, or put yourself in the situation where that might happen? Why would you want to get close enough to someone who has hurt you so much you call it abusive?
 
Julie is right...a zebra doesn't change its stripes, a leopard doesn't change its spots, and an abusive person is only going to be able to control himself for just so long.  
I married a chronic cheater, thinking things would be different with me because we had children together.  Nope. 

Start running, and  dont look back. You deserve much better, Good luck. Every one has given you the best advice.

Why would you want to ?????

If that is actually your picture Kelly ......  I'd spend my time looking for a prince  ....  not a ... whatever.

Colleen

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Thank you.

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