melandrupert
15 Answers
FISH-O
Thanks for the update Mel.... Everyone here has been concerned.
I am glad to hear your Mom is getting better but sorry to hear about her dementia. That's a tough go.
I hope you get a bit of a rest this weekend. Take care, Fishgirl xo
| 13 years ago. Rating: 16 | |
jhharlan
melandrupert
Hi Everyone First Of all I want to Say
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR PREYERS AND THOUGHTS ON MOM
She is alot better (more than I can say about me ) anyway she is doing really well and responding to treatment, I was so shocked to see her, she had lost so much weight they are concerned about her liver so she is waiting for a scan.... she looks very yellow which is expected if you liver is not fuctioning... she also dosnt eat much! when I saw her she did reconize me though demimentia is settleing quite fast she thought my Husband was a boyfriend ( we have been married for 25 years) so we laughed and cried together its funny really as I was never close to my Mom I was a Daddy girl and my Brother was the Mommys boy and as a child I was shipped of to baording school so I never really knew my Mother as she had a high powered Job and work came first,,,,,strange I ahve turned out like her! anyway I really felt close to her and I gave a hug from all you guys thank you again xxxx
| 13 years ago. Rating: 13 | |
clu
I,m glad your Mom is better! When my Mom was in the hospital, she seemed to have dementia but it was caused by pain killers. After leaving hospital she was much better although now is getting very forgetful. Hang in there. Love to both!
| 13 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
Colleen
Thank you for the update! I'm glad she is responding to treatments and hope that any damage to her liver is minimal and not long lasting. Hopefully the signs of dementia will diminish as she gets stronger. Continuing to send healing energies to her and strengthening energies to you to refill what you have used in your worries of her. (((hugs)))) to you.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
Ducky
Good to hear that your Mom is making progress. Get some rest yourself, mel.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
Bob/PKB
Prayers are going out for your mom. Somehow, your first post didn't come up for me. I'd like to reassure you that the dementia may be temporary due to the emaciation and pneumonia. My mom hallucinated for several weeks when she was hospitalized with kidney failure which she had chosen NOT to treat until it became a matter of life or death. She did suffer some brain damage because of the toxins her kidneys weren't able to filter from her system.
Your mom's situation sounds different, and please accept my sincere wishes for her complete and speedy recovery. Do enjoy getting to know her better while she recovers. LAUGH MUCH
| 13 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
I suppose this time is all about her. Tears at home where you can be comforted. It is very sad to have a strong person become weak in body and mind. Hang in there. You have our support and love. xxx
ed shank
PEOPLELOVER
Good news Mel, in as much as mum is on the mend but bit of bad luck about the dementia.
As you know I take my therapy dog "Inca" to a aged care facility and I am in the dementia ward every week and sometimes it is not a pretty sight.
Give you a couple of therapy dog tips with dealing with dementia.
Do not ask "Do you remember such and such?" Because if they can not remember it causes tumoil in their brain.
When you speak to a person with dementia always be at their level, that is if they are sitting you kneel or sit so you are at the same height. To stand up when they are sitting can be construed as confrontational by them.
Do NOT argue trying to change their memory, more confusioning to them.
As a friend I hope this does not become your mothers` life but forwarned is forarmed so all the best to you and Stu , or is that Rupert? from your Aussie mate. xxx
| 13 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
pythonlover
Sorry to hear you are going through this Mel,i hope things settle down for you and your mum/family.Take care Mel.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
sunnyB
daren1
So sorry you have to go through so much mel, my prayers are with you and your mom, stay strong and god bless..
| 13 years ago. Rating: 3 | |
Jenn
Oh darling, I know she is proud of the amazing women you have become., and loves you with all of her heart. Even if she cant reach those memories, you and your brother are what gave her the biggest joys in life. Enjoy the time you have with her now.
You are loved by all of your AKA friends. And I know that we all wish we could take away the stress and pain. We love you.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 3 | |
winfia
For a daughter to lose her mom ... whether it be to abandonment, death, illness, or dementia ... this has got to be the hardest thing ever, Mel. And you are so young. We don't expect that anything like this will happen in our lives until we are much older, so we just stuff that shadow down and go about our daily crazies. I am so happy that you have discovered your shared love and are feeling connected with her. It's a blessing for you both. I used to say that my mom was my best teacher ... in some of her ways that I DIDN'T want to be like. Your mom drove herself with her career and sent you off to boarding school. Perhaps your mom is your best teacher as well, even though you did not feel that close to her. I am lighting a red candle for strength and vitality and sending healing energies to you both.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 3 | |
itsmee
(((mel))) Losing my mother to a stroke was the most difficult thing I've ever been through. I wish you and your family the best.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 2 | |
